Friday, July 26, 2013

Career By Design: Mentoring

Tonight I had a wonderful experience.  I was given just a few moments and the right opportunity to pour into a young woman with her whole life ahead of her.  I wasn't expecting it to be so moving.  I thought that I might meet some nice girls who needed some advice, but the truth is, I received so much joy from spurring someone on to persevere.

While I'm not an expert Mentor, I know the value of being a Protege.  I recently developed a local program for young professionals to connect with established leaders in order to help them grow during a fast-paced, high-potential time called Protege Chattanooga, but I think a key part of being mentored, is finding someone to pour into.

I wanted to share 5 reasons why mentoring rocks:

1. You're a catalyst.  Sometimes all the fuel for the fire is already there, but it needs something to ignite it.  Imagine simply striking an idea in the heart of a young person who eventually stumbles upon the cure for cancer.  Imagine encouraging a high school drop out to go back and power through so that they can know what it feels like to finish what they started.  And if that same person starts again and finishes the process of starting a business that provides for his future.

2.  The true spirit of mentoring has a domino effect & exponential reach.  The spirit of giving is contagious and knowledge is in high demand.  Get a solid ROI on one of your most precious investments, your time.

3. Your community becomes broader.  Connecting with others builds a network of resources for the mentor as well as your own network.

4. There's something almost magical about connecting with someone like the former you.  Even if you have a million differences, one commonality can transcend those differences.  Unlike a child, you're not responsible for the outcome of the decisions they make.  You give, they make a choice on what to do with what they learn.

5. You will learn something.  No matter where you are at in life, there's always something to learn.  Learn about a different culture, learn about what the "cool" young kids are doing, learn about the needs in a community.  Mentorship opens up opportunities to learn beyond the headlines of a newspaper.  

These are the top 5 reasons I came up with after just a few minutes of reflecting on my experience today.  I'm sure there are other more eloquent lists of reasons to be a mentor as well.  I made my list so that I could go back and reflect on my "why" during this next part of my journey.

I always thought I would mentor when I knew more, but the reality is that your experience can help others right now.  Just today, I thought about how much value I would receive from simple parenting tips or ways to not go crazy (as a rookie SAHM).  But then I also thought about some of the tips I've learned in the past that would be helpful to another mom (I'm almost a 10 year veteran at this, can you believe it?!?!).  

I hope to document my imperfect mentorship journey, but I hope that I can hear about some of your journeys as well.

Wednesday, July 10, 2013


“People are often unreasonable and self-centered. Forgive them anyway.
If you are kind, people may accuse you of ulterior motives. Be kind anyway.
If you are honest, people may cheat you. Be honest anyway.
If you find happiness, people may be jealous. Be happy anyway.
The good you do today may be forgotten tomorrow. Do good anyway.
Give the world the best you have and it may never be enough. Give your best anyway.
For you see, in the end, it is between you and God. It was never between you and them anyway.”
― Mother Teresa

Monday, July 8, 2013

Just Showed Up

Listening to Sara Groves radio on Pandora.  Heard this song for the first time & it spoke to me and challenged me to show up!  Happy Monday!

Spending my time sleep walking
Moving my mouth but not saying a thing
Hoping the changes would take by working their way from the outside in
I was in love with an idea
Preoccupied with how a life should appear
Spending my time at the surface repairing the holes in the shiny veneer

There are so many ways to hide
There are so many ways not to feel
There are so many ways to deny what is real

And I just showed up for my own life
And I'm standing here taking it in and it sure looks bright

I'm going to live my life inspired
Look for the holy in the common place
Open the windows and feel all that's honest and real until I'm truly amazed
I'm going to feel all my emotions
I'm going to look you in the eyes
I'm going to listen and hear until it's finally clear and it changes our lives

There are so many ways to hide
There are so many ways not to feel
There are so many ways to deny what is real

And I just showed up for my own life
And I'm standing here taking it in and it sure looks bright

Oh the glory of God is man fully alive
Oh the glory of God is man fully alive

There are so many ways to hide
There are so many ways not to feel
There are so many ways to deny what is real

And I just showed up for my own life
And I'm standing here taking it in and it sure looks bright

I Just Showed Up for My Own Life-Sara Groves

Sunday, July 7, 2013

Getting Deeper

It's been raining for the past five days.  Rain on the 4th of July is typically not ideal, but we made the most of it by tackling some projects at home as well as sending my car to the shop to get new tires since rainy roads are a strong reminder that slick tires can be dangerous.  Overall, we've enjoyed some quality family time since my husband was off for a few days.

Last night, we stayed home and listened to the church service because Jaxton was sleeping since he wasn't feeling well.  I was glad that I had the chance to hear it then & couldn't wait to share it with Jax this morning as well.  Calvary Chapel Chattanooga is our church home and we are blessed by the ministry it provides.  I have attended since May 2007.  It became my home after a time as a prodigal.  God has used this church to help me grow, but hearing the message yesterday convicted me that I need to go deeper.

A couple from France, Sa'id and Fatima, who were former Muslims shared their testimony of radical change.  Sa'id's passion was a beautiful representation of God in action.  They ended the message sharing about their mission to make disciples.  That's where it hit me that I am called to go deeper so that I can share my faith beyond a superficial way.  I am currently in the book of Daniel & feel like I am learning so much.  I am grateful for this renewed passion to be in God's Word.  If you are missing something in your life & thirsty for answers, get in the Word--you won't be disappointed.

Also, If you have some time & want to be blessed, I encourage you to check back in a few days at to hear this week's message.  Go to WORD > Current Teachings.  It is usually posted within a few days.   Check out some of the other great messages as well.

Although I'm looking forward to the sun coming out again, I'm grateful for this rainy weekend that prompted some needed change in my home & in my heart!