|Jax & Pop Spring 2008|
When I met my husband, I was a single mom. Jax had just turned 4 years old. One of the few perks of being a single mom is that you get to see a glimpse of a father before choosing to spend your life with him. My husband, a modest & reserved man, was kind and loving with my son. He was a natural. Bike rides, hikes, reading a story at bedtime--Jax didn't even have to ask. I was able to get to know him better and witness his character in the way that he treated my child--now our child. This is one of the many reasons I love him!
Fast forward five years and add two children. This daddy is knee-deep in the craziness of parenting. Suiting up to take on sleepless nights, sick children, teething babies, toddler tantrums, hard questions and all of the difficult parts of parenting is where he shines. These are the battles that separate the men from the boys.
|Daddy staying overnight with Eden hospitalized with flu|
Like most men, he enjoys the challenge in his work. One of the tragedies that he sees in his profession is the absence of a father. We both know how that feels & how difficult it is for a child to grow up without what Freud deemed childhood's strongest need--"the need for a father's protection." I value his awareness of this need and the way that he exemplifies it in our family & his commitment to serve and protect in his profession.
The need for good fathers in our society is evident. In my life, the presence of a good father is one of life's sweetest blessing. For a girl who grew up without a father, I treasure my husband's existence, I lift him up in his parenting--even if it's not like mine. I praise him for the ordinary--because even if it's something regular fathers do, it is extraordinary to me.
He likes to talk politics with our son and watch silly parodies and other ridiculous videos on youtube, when he knows that it drives me crazy. He encourages the kids to tease me and act silly and...
And sometimes he struggles with sharing our son (every other weekend) because he misses Jax being away. (I can relate.) He understands that having a blended family is hard--and not ideal--but that doesn't stop him from loving all of our children equally and fully.